Ok – so you’re ready to start looking for a new boyfriend?

Let me guess – you’re nervous/shy/scared/confused about getting back out there again?

Well d’you know what? That’s ok. In fact it’s perfectly normal.

Breaking up, especially if it was a long-term relationship, can really knock you for six. It’s pretty common for women to say they lost a lot of self-confidence and had low esteem – especially about their looks.

If this sounds like you, then stop worrying right now!

Regaining your confidence and feeling good about yourself is easy if you just put a bit of thought into bringing the inner you back to life and remembering just how fabulous you truly are.

1. Start telling yourself that you’re lovely, sexy, funny, desirable –

all the things that you actually are but just can’t see right now. Surround yourself with uplifting and positive friends who all think you’re wonderful. And when someone pays you a compliment, accept it with a gracious “thank you”. Banish that little demon who sits on your shoulder whispering negative nonsense in your ear and replace him with George Clooney, whispering what he’d like to be doing to you right now!

2. Start looking after yourself 

Go to the beauty salon and have a massage, get a facial. Buy yourself some new clothes – and if you’re unsure about what to get, take your best friend for advice. Cherish yourself! Not only will it make you look good, but you’ll start feeling good too. Valuing yourself brings about a whole series of changes to your whole being. You become more confident and get your inner glow back. You’ll start to sparkle again.

3. Start wearing your sexiest underwear more often

Ok – so nobody is going to see it at the moment, but when you walk into a room and spot a gorgeous man, you’ll be amazed at the difference it makes to your confidence knowing that underneath your clothes, you look hot enough to melt chocolate! Just do it for yourself.

4. Start flirting

I don’t mean flicking your hair and rolling your eyes at every man that takes your fancy either. Flirting is about more than that. It’s about connecting with people, men and women, and making them feel special. It’s about walking into a room, head held high, smile on your face and genuinely charming the pants off everyone present. Good communication skills and real inner confidence are a lethal weapon when it comes to drawing new people into your life.

5. Start letting the real you shine

If there’s one thing that’s more attractive to a man than anything, it’s a woman with a “this is me, take it or leave it because either way I don’t give a damn!” attitude. Don’t look at a man and wonder what he thinks of you. Look at him and ask yourself what do you think of him?! Is he good enough for you? There’s no big rush – take your time. If you genuinely fancy someone, great, but just go slow. Get to know him first. Talk. Find out about him and remind yourself that you’re back in charge of your own life now – and about to have some fun!

Whatever it is you want from life, the key to getting it is self-belief

Believe you are gorgeous. Believe you are confident. Believe you are worthy of true love. Believe you deserve to be happy.

When you start to think it, you’ll start to act it.

When you start to act is when you’ll start to attract it.

Your life is about to take a turn for the better.