Lots of people dismiss affairs and relationships that are carried out over the Internet as an act of sad desperation. They cite the lack of physical contact and other forms of non-verbal interaction as reasons why such a relationship can’t be real and valid.
However, in today’s society, opportunity for idle, face-to-face chatting is sadly diminished. At work, at the shops, at the gym – everyone is on a schedule and nobody has time to stop to actually talk and get to know each other.
One of the reasons why social networking and online dating sites have enjoyed such phenomenal success is that they provide that missing opportunity.
Take, for example, online dating sites.
Providing you’ve signed up with a decent and reputable company, offering a safe and secure system, you can relax and get to know people in an environment where all you really have to think about is just that – getting to know someone!
They are not in a position to impact on your real, day-to-day life until you are ready to give your consent. This in itself positively encourages individuals to really communicate with someone and say – or rather write – from the heart.
We are used to being bombarded with messages telling us that image and appearance is our most important asset when it comes to attracting a new partner. Whilst physical attraction is obviously important, it is relationships founded on true friendship with real knowledge and understanding of each other that stand the greatest chance of surviving the test of time.
In fact many couples whose relationship started out online, state that it was there that they learned the value and importance of putting aside time to actually talk and communicate with each other beyond a brief discussion on what’s for dinner and who is organising the babysitter.
Parallels can also be drawn between the old fashioned courtship of yesteryear and the manner in which two people engaged in an online relationship conduct their affair. The anticipation of reply to an email is similar to that of couples who would have communicated by letter – all adding to the romance of such a situation.
And with regard to sex and seduction, it is often those who are less able to articulate their real wants and desires in the offline world that can really benefit from the freedom provided by the Internet. The shyness they may experience when face-to-face with a lover diminishes with the written word.
It is also the most shy and sensitive who are often the most successful online seducers!
In summary, to realize that it is the art of communication, flirtation, articulate seduction and honest expression that is at the heart of successful online affairs is refreshing and reassuring in a world that is now deemed shallow and jaded by image enhancement and spin.
