Yahoo99 asked:


I have started seeing a good friend who is a single mom. We live long distance from each other an hour apart. I want to have a serious relationship with her. She has a 3 yr old son. She was divorced a year or so ago because her ex husband cheated on her. She is afraid to be in a relationship. What is a good way to show her that I am not going to hurt her and that I will never cheat on her?

5 Comments on Single moms I need Advice for dating a single mom?

The Grim Reaper on Sun, 7th Sep 2008 11:18 am


STAY AWAY from the BABYMAMA DRAMA!

Procrastinator on Mon, 8th Sep 2008 10:19 pm


You need to be there for her all the time. You need to do all the things that are going to help her out and you need to do them without being asked. Take out the rubbish. Clean dishes. Don’t ask what you can do to help, just do it.

Find things that genuinely interest you about her son. Show him as much attention as you do her, but be mindful of stepping on her parental toes too early on.

Be kind, gentle and honest. Don’t reassure her about your commitment verbally, show her your commitment.

memyselfandI on Thu, 11th Sep 2008 3:55 am


It’s really great that you keep your options open in who you date. But remember, don’t leave her son out of the equation. Always ask how her son is doing. It will show that you care about both of them and not just after a booty call.

Shieldgambit on Thu, 11th Sep 2008 5:57 am


stay away from baby mama drama is right.
don’t go into a relationship where you have to convince anyone of anything. there are plenty of single gals without baggage who would like to have kids with you, rather than you raise the child of someone else.
she sounds like trouble. she may have ignored her ex and drove him to cheat. find a good woman with no baggage. she can find plenty of single dads and they can make each other’s lives miserable.

azladygeek on Fri, 12th Sep 2008 7:30 pm


Trust comes from time and consistent, positive actions. So continue to be her friend first. Make sure she knows she can count on that. If you haven’t told her how sorry you are for what she went through or how it angers you that someone could do that to her or to anyone, now is the time to do that. Be consistent in your actions and follow through on everything you say you’re going to do. Give her time and some space, but always let her know you’re there for her and remind her you’re waiting for her when she’s ready. Most importantly, talk to her, open up to her, trust her to keep your secrets and let her know when you’ve told her something you haven’t been comfortable sharing with others. When she shares things with her, let her know how much you value that she can talk to you.

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