Online flirting – the way to do it!
We all like it when someone flirts with us. That lovely feeling when you’re the sole focus of somebody’s attention – when all they’re doing is trying to make you feel good about yourself. It feels great, doesn’t it?
The thing is though, when face to face, flirting is a breeze – a woman playing with her hair, a man holding your gaze just that little bit longer than necessary and, with subtlety, mirroring every move you make. All the little add-ons to the conversation that make it quite clear, without actually putting it into words, that you’re interested in each other.
But what about flirting online?
Ok, so you could use your webcam, but how many of us feel confident doing that until we’re really familiar with someone?
No – if you’re trying to get to know someone via the internet, words are your secret weapon.
For a lot of you, I guess that feels pretty freaky! I mean, we’re not all great at writing, are we?
That’s no big deal. Think about it – if you’re nervous or afraid of rejection, isn’t it a heck of a lot easier to take if you’re not actually face to face with somebody?
Doesn’t that lack of pressure immediately make you loosen up and be able to find the words you want to say when you’d ordinarily be tongue-tied? Of course it does!
Listed below are a few, simple pointers to follow as you ease yourself into email flirting without getting all hot under the collar. You’ll soon be making it quite clear to the person on the receiving end that you’d love to get to know them a whole lot better.
Online or offline – flirting is about having fun!
Keep things fun and light hearted. Be entertaining and avoid getting too heavy. You want him or her to enjoy “talking” with you and be eagerly waiting to receive your next email.
Play the game
You know when you’re watching a game of tennis and the two players get into a really great volley that has everyone one the edge of their seat, waiting to see who’s going to break first? Well, that’s just what great online flirting is like. Short, sassy, confident emails flying to and fro. You can feel the excitement and anticipation of the return landing in your inbox from the moment you hit send.
Come clean
Tell the truth. Don’t create some imaginary persona or claim the looks of a movie star just to add a bit of oomph to your emails. The person on the receiving end will just be angry and disappointed when they find out the truth.
Look to the future
A word of warning. Don’t ask them about past relationships. You want your emails to be positive and forward looking. Why dredge up what’s gone before when all you’re really interested in is being a part of their future?
Check, check and check again
Show some courtesy and take the time to check over your emails before you send them for spelling and grammar mistakes. It’s just good old-fashioned courtesy and you can guarantee it’ll get you noticed.
Ask flirtatious questions
Where is the most romantic place you’d like to go on a date? What’s your favourite flavour of ice-cream? Where would your dream holiday destination for you and your lover be? Asking light-hearted questions is a good way to get someone communicating with you. We all like it when someone shows an interest and it’s a great opportunity for you to find out more about them.
Be careful what you say
It’s really easy for the content of an email to be misconstrued. The number of misunderstandings that take place online would provide enough content to put comedy screen writers out of work for the next hundred years. You might be able to laugh about it later, but at the time it might not be so funny. Try and make sure your tone is easy to determine and that what you say doesn’t have more than one meaning and you should be fine
Finally facing reality
So you’ve been flirting for some time and the tension between you is palpable. You’ve got some thinking to do. What if you meet up and the reality doesn’t compare to the fantasy you’ve been living online? Are you prepared to take that risk? If the answer is yes, then go for it. Jump in your car, catch that train, get on an aeroplane. Do whatever it takes. Just be prepared to deal with the consequences of bringing your online relationship to life – whatever those consequences may be!
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