*the violet ice queen* asked:


ok, so i make eye contact and laugh at their jokes and smile and stuff, but i only like flirt flirt with a few guys, some of them are just so intimidating, i feel like i need to get to know them better in order to really flirt with them! advice?
ps: im shy and i do nott like to tell jokes or be outgoing…

16 Comments on i need some flirting advice, please?

Kylie G on Mon, 1st Dec 2008 5:29 pm


Then talk to them like you would your best friends. (:

? ? on Fri, 5th Dec 2008 5:25 am


Do what you do…but talking with them helps as well. Eventually, one will be trapped under your spider’s web!

berri236 on Sat, 6th Dec 2008 5:39 am


always look smiley and if he talks to you giggle in a girly way and tell him he’s funny aint that how it starts

Serena G. on Mon, 8th Dec 2008 11:51 pm


show your ***** a lot (;

barnz on Wed, 10th Dec 2008 3:45 pm


get involved in as many activities as possible, that way you will meet people and hang out with them so you can “flirt better” that way

c@m!_cut!3 on Sun, 14th Dec 2008 3:04 am


Talk to them ask questions , it works, even if itz small talk itz better than no talk.

Pandora on Mon, 15th Dec 2008 4:51 am


Flirting isn’t always about the language that comes out of your mouth, but rather what your body is telling them. I have the best luck with guys when I say little with my mouth and more with my body. (and no I am not talking about whoring yourself out) I simply mean you can say so much with just your eyes, or how you stand, or the way you smile. So much is said with out words.

Pandora

LATINBOY on Tue, 16th Dec 2008 5:00 pm


it is really easy to talk to us you can just do about anything and still get our attention.

Wayne S on Fri, 19th Dec 2008 12:32 am


get to know the guys better .

Get ready, Boys! :D on Fri, 19th Dec 2008 8:32 am


Well you kind of HAVE to be outgoing to flirt. Smile at him every time you go by him, and let HIM come to YOU. Don’t go over to him until you know him very well or unless he won’t come to you at all. Like him being too shy.

Steven R on Sun, 21st Dec 2008 6:50 am


well you can do one of a few things… you can say as the guy above me did, and play as if a guy is a good friend of yours. another way is to try to be willing to do more things. try to be more outgoing (which is hard because i know my girlfriend is not outgoing at all, but she took a chance with me, and it has turned out great). the third idea that i could give to you would be to just have fun with ur friends, and if a guy notices you, he will come up to you and introduce himself (or a shy friend who likes you) to you.

Rachel W on Wed, 24th Dec 2008 6:44 am


i’m extremelyy shy but i have coped…and learned how to flirt with guys much better.
some good tips are: 1. be urself 2. if they r mean 2 u, it’s prolly cuz they like u! 3. just laugh around when they make jokes and just ask them random ?’s and it will eventually lead to flirting. 4. if u really want them to “like”"like” u get a new haircut, lick ur lips alot[weird huh?] and most importantly SMILE. but don’t rush it be urself and do what makes u comfortable. good luck girl.

Jackie S on Sat, 27th Dec 2008 12:08 pm


be like,”are school ***** theres no hot guys.”,And most likley they will be like what about me,and you say “umm ANYWAYS.” And it will start flirting and things.

Kara on Tue, 30th Dec 2008 1:38 am


I’m a lot like you, very similar actually. I’m really shy and the guy usually has to make the first move. I found that once you get even the slightest bit of physical touch within the ‘relationship,’ things are so much easier. Next time he teases you, gently push his shoulder, or give him a light punch on the arm. Just go with the flow and talk with them as often as you can, without being attached at the hip. I’m promising you, once you touch him a few times, he’ll get the hint and he’ll be more apt to want to touch you. Soon enough you’ll be really close. Good luck! =)

kokab on Thu, 1st Jan 2009 10:12 am


be real and be yourself. The truth never catches you off guard. I gave this advice to someone a while back,here is a part of it:

on a date:

- you are there to get to know the other person, or create a romantic mood, etc. So there is nothing there to feel anxious about.

- Be yourself. Be yourself. Be yourself. You will gain a million more scores. Usually, we feel anxious because we are not sure what to say, how to say it, or if we ***** up saying it, etc. But if you are yourself and honest, then there is nothing to worry about.

- if your date is more handsome than you, then all the better, because you will be less threatening. However, if you are more handsome than your date, remember that your date will be more self conscious than you. Therefore, your sweetness and shyness will relax your date. Remember to SMILE. It is a win win.

- try to maneuver the conversation towards topics within your comfort zone. If you are interested or know much about cars, business, dogs, sports, etc. That way your involvement will be second nature to you and you won’t feel anxious.

in a group:

- smile, look interested and be attentive. I didn’t use to smile and combined with my shyness, it threw people off, and I came across as snobbish or full of myself. However, being quiet, while having a smile on your face, is an inviting and friendly gesture

- shyness – I used to ***** up a lot because I tried to mask my shyness by making inappropriate comments or incompatible conversation. There is nothing wrong with looking or being shy- a shy person is not obnoxious, threatening, mean or intimidating. A shy person looks approachable, sweet, gentle, observant, pleasant, kind, polite and courteous

- generally be agreeable. People don’t feel threatened by it and they enjoy conversing with you. This will make you more relaxed and could get you involved at which point the ice is broken and you don’t need to be agreeable anymore.

- ask them questions. Remember, people would love to talk about themselves, their cars, they homes, their jobs……

NOTE: doing the above, you will, in fact, come across as a cool, quiet, confident type

Tori S on Sat, 3rd Jan 2009 12:21 pm


If you really want to flirt with them and your shy then you need to boost your confidence! try talking about normal things and laugh at their jokes, when you think they really know you(like if they say your name and ask you a lot of questions) then you should make the first move(if they already havent)

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