Creating A Profile To Get The Man Of Your Dreams!
Okay girls…..brace yourselves!
If you’re about to embark on a journey into the world of Internet Dating, just get ready to be absolutely bombarded with more men than in your wildest dreams! Why? Well because the Internet Dating scene is still pretty “male heavy”, which is no bad thing if you’re serious about finding Mr Right.
So, how do you go about making sure the guys you attract really are potential mate material? First of all, your photograph. You do have a picture for in your profile, don’t you? If not, go get one right now because let’s face it – the first thing any of us really do is check out how physically attractive someone is.
Actually, according to a recent survey undertaken by three of the largest dating sites out there, 75% of both male and female members look at the photo first when choosing their matches. They also found that if you have a photo in your profile, you are 10 times more likely to be contacted than someone without one.
Once you’ve got your photo sorted, it’s time to turn your attention to writing something about yourself and the kind of man you’d love to meet. Whatever you do, try to avoid the typical “ Hi. My name is ****, and I love Thai food, have a great sense of humour, love taking long walks and would love to meet someone for fun and good times ….blah blah blah”.
Not only does this kind of profile sound dull as ditch water, but it really doesn’t go anywhere near revealing the kind of person you truly are or even touch on defining the kind of man you’re hoping to meet. And you know what men are like! If you don’t make it clear as daylight exactly what you’re after, well, you just won’t get it!
If you want to make sure the men who are going to contact you have at least a few boxes ticked on your list of requirements, you’d better make sure that the profile you’ve written and posted does a great job in attracting the right kind of candidates. So have a think about it. Who are you? What is it that you want from life? What do you really appreciate in a man? What do you value? What makes you laugh? What makes you cry? What really “melts your butter”?!
Make a big long list of all the things that are important to you - and don’t rush it. The more thought and effort you put into it, the more likely you are to attract Mr Wonderful as opposed to Mr Just-Not-Quite-Right!
Take a look at what this woman wrote and you’ll see what I mean :-
“I’m a typical Libra – I love being surrounded by beautiful things (which doesn’t mean “expensive”), creative and interesting people who are not afraid to be unique and speak their minds, have a naughty sense of humour and a quick, intelligent brain.
I hate arguments and confrontation, live to keep the peace and can be infuriatingly indecisive.
I admit to being a work in process and still strive for perfection even though I don’t believe it exists. If something is worth doing, it’s worth doing well and I’ll put my heart and soul into it.
But if I consider something not worth the effort, don’t be surprised if I persuade you to spend the day in bed with me, eating chocolate and putting time and energy to a far better use.
If I’m going to want to be with you, you won’t be Mr 9 to 5, a follower of fashion or waste time “keeping up with the Jones’s”. You’ll love cracking double entendres, know more about life than I do (I get bored easily), be down to earth and have the patience of a saint. You’ll love discussing anything from art to artichokes because life is full of the strange and the wonderful that inspires rather than scares you and you’ll stop and stand still for beautiful sunsets and love walking through woodland after spring showers.
Don’t think you can live up to my expectations? Then you probably won’t – your ideal woman is likely on the next page. But if you think you can rise to the occasion, well here I am!”
A post like this works because it starts off by giving you an insight into the kind of person she is and what she’s looking for in a man. Then at the end she makes it quite clear that she really isn’t interested in hearing from “him” if he has any doubts about what he’s just read.
Be really clear, say what you want (as well as what you don’t), and you’re halfway there to meeting the man of your dreams.
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