im 14 , yeah too young for dating and stuff, iknow:)

my friend is flirting constantly with my boyfriend – he really likes her and has actually told me he fancys her! (loves)
He is quite obsessed and doesnt treat me like a girlfriend, just like a bit on the side or just a second best to her

I told her i didnt like them flirting…. all she said was ‘flirting is fun sozz’ i was like AARRR he’s my man back off, lol (didnt say that:P) and i told him he was flirting and all he said was ‘eh no im not’

what should i do? dump him? or just anything, advice?

or if you can think of good revenge?! , mwahaha, im usually a very nice girl y’know.

(sorry for moaning on)

17 Comments on Boyfriend and Bestfriend Flirting – Need Advice?

HGSTFPOSHTTMC on Sun, 11th Jan 2009 2:16 pm


talk to them about it.

punkrocker2272 on Wed, 14th Jan 2009 9:40 am


dump him, obviously he shows no emotions towards your feelings and doesnt deserve to have you as a girlfriend

Texas Girl on Fri, 16th Jan 2009 6:59 pm


Honey, you need to dump him! He sounds like he is no good- if he can put another girl before you then you should say goodbye! How could you be with someone like that? You need to be with a guy that puts you first and only you! Dump him and your friend because hes a jerk and shes a b!tch

~*jUsTiNe*~ on Fri, 16th Jan 2009 8:23 pm


dude dump him, he obviously likes your friend more than you. How rude…

Tiffany T on Sun, 18th Jan 2009 10:04 am


Well, first of all you arent too young to be dating and stuff. Second, flirting is fun but your bestfriend shouldnt be flirting with YOUR boyfriend. And it kinda sounds like your boyfriend isnt ready for any sort of commitment, even as small as being labeled somebodys boyfriend. Maybe you should consider being just friends with him and find a boy that is more mature and ready for a relationship.

Brit on Tue, 20th Jan 2009 8:58 am


First, you’re right, you’re very young, so I wouldn’t stress over this. But I do think you should communicate with him. Have a talk with him about the flirting. If you already have, talk to him again! Tell him how you feel about it, ask him to listen to what you have to say, and you listen to what he has to say. Communication is the key to EVERY relationship! If he is unable to respect you, then I would tell him you would rather just be friends (which usually doesn’t happen after a break-up)

Also, I would talk with your friend again. Tell her you hope she would respect your feelings and not flirt with him.

Blessings to you and your decision.

devil in disguise on Thu, 22nd Jan 2009 5:14 pm


dump him
he’s told you he likes another girl for gods sake. just be like when you get over this thing with my bestfriend call me, but til then i think its best we don’t hang out.
and be prepared for them to go out, in which case show how your a bettr friend than she is and don’t flirt with him, and if he flirts with you make sure you’re clear that he had his chance and its not your fault he screwed up.
and no 14′s not too young. it’s too young for serious stuff and being “in love” but yeah you should be dating, i was dating when i was 14 and it didn’t do me any harm.
good luck hun x

cocoa on Sun, 25th Jan 2009 1:52 pm


Obviously he has no feelings for you and possibly just wants to use you to hook up with your friend. Oh, and your friend is not really a friend if she would stoop so low to flirt with your boyfriend. Ditch them both, you deserve a better boyfriend and better friends period.

Tanya S on Mon, 26th Jan 2009 1:42 am


Tell them how it makes you feel. If they can’t respect that, let him go. And have nothing else to do with her. She’ll se what it’s like to lose a caring friend, and he’ll feel the cold draft of being alone when you drop them. They need to respect you if they are your “best friend” and “boyfriend”.
My boyfriend used to flirt with other women, too. I was being passive about it, until he dropped me into a void (probably) for another woman.
If they won’t respect that, drop them now! Or else it will crush your heart like hell if you don’t. Look at me.

salut on Thu, 29th Jan 2009 8:27 am


yep. dump him. If your gf likes his so much, let her have him. HIS LOSS.

pinkfariy22 on Thu, 29th Jan 2009 6:59 pm


dump him

if he is only flirting with your friend this is still no excuse.

and friend you cant call her a friend if she would do that.

also even if nothing has happened between them yet it soulds to me somthing will soon and the sooner you get out of that the less hurt you will get.

im really sorry to say all that. i hope every thing works out for you!

the only revenge i could think of is sit and wait when “your friend” find some one she likes flirt with him lol

soni on Sun, 1st Feb 2009 6:50 am


y don’t u start flirting with his fren???? ur best fren is single?? well, if she EVER find a bf, do the same with her bf that she’s doing with u………. y don’t u start telling ur bf of all the stupidest thing ur fren has done, u know the ones that is unattractive and gross, so he won’t be flirt with her. anyways if it doesn’t work, break up with him, he’s not worth it anyway, goodluck

Khuz AKA Butterfly Designs on Wed, 4th Feb 2009 12:41 pm


Well you should dump him cuz he doesn’t really care about you at all does he because he said that he likes you best mate which means that he wants to go out with your best mate:d you should leave the rest to them two and get on with your life! and you’ll find some on that deserves you! :d

Khuz.x
Soz for typing soo long! lol

Daisycow on Fri, 6th Feb 2009 6:56 am


You should never sell yourself short by putting up with someone who clearly doesn’t care about you. Keep your pride intact and dump him.
And find some new friends whilst you’re at it. Yes flirting is fun, but at the right time, in the right place and NOT with your friends boyfriend.
Neither of them deserve you.

debrisa11 on Sat, 7th Feb 2009 9:59 pm


get them both together and ask them outright do they fancy each other, if they do give them your blesing and then tell them both to get lost. Your better than the both of them. I’m sure you can find someone alot better and with more intelligence and who wants to be with you and take you out to the cinema etc.

stephanie52477 on Sun, 8th Feb 2009 2:51 am


You should dump him if he fancies another girl. His attention will never be on you but on this other chic. I know you can find someone else that is as into you as you want to be into them.

Sex~Kitten on Sun, 8th Feb 2009 11:26 am


dump him..he obviously likes her

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