Getting Ready For Dating Again
Part One – getting through the early days
Anyone who has been through a break-up will tell you – it’s like being on a rollercoaster.
Starting dating again is usually the last thing on your mind.
Your moods and feelings don’t just change with each new day – they change with each passing hour!
One minute you’re “up”, feeling strong, confident, optimistic.
The next moment you’re flat on your face, feeling like life will never be the same again and you can’t imagine ever meeting someone new.
But do you know what? That’s normal! And if you follow just a few simple rules, you’ll soon be coming out the other side, a smile on your face and a new man in tow!
1. Stop all contact
Don’t go calling round for coffee and put a ban on him doing the same. Friends do that kind of thing, and you’re not ready to be friends for at least the next 6 months!
If you’re the one that left and some of your belongings still need collecting, get a friend to pick them up or arrange to call when he’s out.
Likewise if he’s the one that left – get him to remove his things soon as possible, preferably when you’re not there.
2. Stop emailing/texting/calling….
It’s too easy to come up with an excuse to get in touch. “Just found your shoes/shirt/shaving foam!!!”
You might laugh – but I’ll bet you’ve done it!
Come on – you can be stronger than that! Don’t torture yourself – don’t stretch it out. Breaking up is painful enough to begin with. Don’t make it worse.
And if he keeps contacting you, simply ask him not to.
3. Stop talking about him
Ok – so at first you’re going to want to go over the whole ordeal with your best girlfriend. At least 20 million times.
But don’t bear your soul to all and sundry – and don’t forget, even “best friend” can only take so much.
Don’t drag it out for too long – for everybody’s sake.
4. Stop making excuses for him
Ok, it takes two to tango – and at the end of the day, neither one of you is perfect. You both gave it your all and it just didn’t work out.
Accept it.
Guilt and blame are a destructive duo.
They hold you back. Let go.
5. Stop thinking of yourself as newly separated
Think instead about how you’ll feel in the near future.
When you wake up and go to sleep and he isn’t the first and last thing on your mind.
When you realise you’re smiling again – and some gorgeous man just smiled back!
When you realise you’re over it and ready for dating again.
Grab these thoughts and hold onto them – soon enough they’ll be the real deal.
Read Part 2 of getting ready for dating again here.
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