Ladies – 5 reasons to date an older man – and money ain’t one of them!
Sex
Older men are more interested in pleasing you for as long as possible before pleasing themselves. If you’re used to younger guys that just dive in there and don’t give you any thought and consideration, you’re in for a treat!
Baggage
We’ve all got it in one way, shape or form. The thing is though, older men realize this and tend to take it all in their stride. They’re more laid back and have been around enough to have a more philosophical take on life than younger, less mature men.
Romance
Confidence is something that often develops with age. An older man will have the self-confidence ,as well as thoughtfulness, to say and carry out romantic gestures – unlike his younger counterpart who just thinks that kind of thing is for jessies!
Supportive
Older men are usually a lot more secure in themselves and less likely to see a woman with drive and ambition as a threat. Indeed, with his contacts and life experiences, it’s more likely that he’ll play a large part in you securing your dreams.
And finally……….
He’s ready to settle down
Unlike younger men, a guy who has sown a few wild oats and got a lot of youthful wilfulness out of his system is more likely to want to settle down and commit to a monogamous relationship.
Older Woman/Younger Man – The Rise of the Cougar Woman
With roughly every other marriage now ending in divorce, the numbers of single men and women in their 40’s, 50’s and 60’s has never been higher.
There’s a heck of a lot of older people “out there” and back in the dating game!
These new statistics have also brought with them a new and unprecedented trend – that of older women dating younger men. This shouldn’t come as any surprise considering today’s older woman usually works out and looks great well into middle age and beyond.
Physical attraction isn’t the only thing she’s got going for her either.
Older women are more likely to be a lot more self-assured, completely at ease with their sexuality, know how to make a man feel good, be far more interesting, successful and self-reliant.
All things that a lot of younger men find an irresistible alternative to needy, angst ridden, insecure “twenty-somethings”, who are often on the lookout for a meal ticket and emotional crutch!
You can pretty much guarantee that if an older woman is involved with a man of any age, it’s because she “wants” to be with him rather than “needs” to be.
But why would an older woman want to be with a younger guy anyway?
Well, have you come across the phrase “Cougar Women”?
It’s the name that is often applied to older women who actively pursue younger men for love, sex and relationships.
I guess it is sex and passion that first springs to mind when you think about it.
Women reach their sexual peak at a much later age than men – therefore the younger man/older woman combination can be sexual dynamite.
But there are many reasons beyond sexual appetite and lusting after a young, well-toned male physique that inspires a cougar to go for a much younger partner.
Younger men tend to be much less cynical about life and more open to excitement and adventure. An older woman, fresh out of a dull and draining marriage will find this a real turn on and a means to getting the thrills from life that she now seeks.
A lot of older women also enjoy the opportunity to mold and mentor their younger partner as he ages and matures. That way, she enjoys a sense of power as she introduces him to aspects of life that he might not yet have experienced.
This can be a huge turn on for a younger man as he is gently (or sometimes roughly!) taken by the hand and shown the way by a sophisticated older woman confident in herself and her abilities.
There are many cougar women in the public spotlight who have chosen to live their lives with younger men – Susan Sarandon, Madonna, Demi Moore amongst them.
As is often the way, the celebrity seal of approval for a new phenomenon is often all it takes for it to soon become accepted as the norm.
The Importance of Online Communication
Lots of people dismiss affairs and relationships that are carried out over the Internet as an act of sad desperation. They cite the lack of physical contact and other forms of non-verbal interaction as reasons why such a relationship can’t be real and valid.
However, in today’s society, opportunity for idle, face-to-face chatting is sadly diminished. At work, at the shops, at the gym – everyone is on a schedule and nobody has time to stop to actually talk and get to know each other.
One of the reasons why social networking and online dating sites have enjoyed such phenomenal success is that they provide that missing opportunity.
Take, for example, online dating sites.
Providing you’ve signed up with a decent and reputable company, offering a safe and secure system, you can relax and get to know people in an environment where all you really have to think about is just that – getting to know someone! Read more
Getting Ready for Dating Again – Pt 2
Read Part 1 of getting ready for dating again first by clicking this link
Ok – so you’re ready to start looking for a new boyfriend?
Let me guess – you’re nervous/shy/scared/confused about getting back out there again?
Well d’you know what? That’s ok. In fact it’s perfectly normal.
Breaking up, especially if it was a long-term relationship, can really knock you for six. It’s pretty common for women to say they lost a lot of self-confidence and had low esteem – especially about their looks.
If this sounds like you, then stop worrying right now!
Regaining your confidence and feeling good about yourself is easy if you just put a bit of thought into bringing the inner you back to life and remembering just how fabulous you truly are.
1. Start telling yourself that you’re lovely, sexy, funny, desirable –
all the things that you actually are but just can’t see right now. Surround yourself with uplifting and positive friends who all think you’re wonderful. And when someone pays you a compliment, accept it with a gracious “thank you”. Banish that little demon who sits on your shoulder whispering negative nonsense in your ear and replace him with George Clooney, whispering what he’d like to be doing to you right now!
